By Galena Rhoades Don't slide into marriage; decide if he's the one. Today, most couples live together before marriage - more than 75 percent. Many people will live with different partners during their twenties and thirties, too. While it’s common, it doesn’t mean the trend is good. In fact, those who live together before they have decided and planned on marriage report less happy marriages later on and are more likely to divorce. It’s true that there may be some benefits of living together. You may discover some of the faults your partner has or learn ways that you are incompatible. But the risk for many is that you may stay with this person due to inertia even if he or she doesn’t ultimately pass your test. My colleagues at the University of Denver and I call this phenomenon “sliding versus deciding.” Click on the link to the article on verilymag.com to find out the four reasons why living together may make it harder to know if you’ve found “the one” - 1. Living together makes it harder to break up. 2. For most couples, living together increases discord. 3. Living together may instill a break-up mentality that can hurt later marriage. 4. Living together can hurt your chance of determining if you’re truly compatible. Picture from today.com
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